Anyone who knows me will know I’m not good with surprises. I’m not good at keeping them. I get too excited and end up telling someone… sometimes the person the surprise is for.
I’m also really not good at waiting for a surprise. I like to pry, prod and push till I find out all the details. For me, it’s a special kind of challenge and I’m pretty good at getting information out of people (put it down to years as a journalist interviewing people and getting them to talk to me) – not that that’s always a good thing!
I’m also one of those people who like to shake/feel presents and guess what they are, it’s part of the fun right?
Erm, Yes we can!
Erm, because we do – it’s actually our decision…(this was good prep for all the unwanted/opinionated advice you get when pregnant or when you have a baby – ‘Why would you want to give birth at home? Why aren’t you using reusable nappies?’ Because, it’s our baby and our choices actually?
But baby had other things in mind.
Baby was curled up with one hand behind its head and the sonographer couldn’t see the heart, so I was sent off to climb the stairs for 10 mins, giving us all time to talk.
‘Why aren’t we finding out again?’ I asked my husband
‘Because you didn’t want to’ – and that’s when it hit me. I really really wanted to know.
Yes I admire people who wait and get that amazing surprise on the day – it must be so special. But it’s just not me (as I said I’m bad with surprises) and the Wise Hippo hypnobirthing classes are all about getting in touch with what you want, not what other people do or want, right?!
So the upshot is, yes I’m glad we found out – I’m glad because we have time to prep our daughter and hang out more with other boy toddlers!!
I’m glad because it made the scan day even more exciting and special for us – afterwards we went and bought some dungarees for our baby and had a picnic to toast him
I’m glad because I was struggling with names anyway and now I have fewer options to choose from.
But I’m mainly glad because it was the right choice for us!
It doesn’t matter what you choose to do as long as you choose to do it. Sometimes it’s hard to know what you really want – I thought I was following my heart but on the day my intuition wouldn’t shut up.
Also, it worked out pretty well, as we told people in the run-up to the scan that we weren’t finding out, no-one said anything negative. And now we tell people we’re having a boy and they just say congratulations.